When people are causing you pain, or are getting angry with you, realize that what they want from you is for you to love and accept them just as they are. Do not take it personally. They do not want you to withdraw, get angry, feel hurt, or defend yourself. In truth, the issue rarely even matters to them. They are experiencing their own pain and it has nothing to do with you. Although they may blame it on you or tell you it is your fault, any pain they blame on you comes from a pain within them.